SUPPORT SYSTEMS

Life is very interesting when you have something to focus on. Knowing that you have an exciting thing to do every day is enough to get you out of the bed but, as we all know by now, life is not static, excitement is not enough to run life, and recently I think passion will not be enough as well. What I think will be enough is a combination of three things; Passion, excitement, and a support system.

We all know how passion works and we know the amount of energy we derive from being excited but, a support system is as important as these other two factors.

Support systems are humans that you know you can rely on, your people, the set of people you can always run to, the people that have your back. When your support system is strong, you can do everything you put your mind to because, this set of people are ready to give you all the strength you need, they are ready to go miles for you.

One thing you should never do is be selfish, you are aware that they can go the extra mile for you but, do not take it for granted because, in the real sense of it, they don’t owe you anything, they chose and decided to be there for you. Don’t keep withdrawing from them without depositing, always be their happy place as well. It’s not their job description, you didn’t employ them for it, learn to appreciate their little gestures and acts of kindness. In essence, if you can, be your support system’s support system.

As much as we need people we want to rely on, don’t allow people to take advantage of us, and do not be a walkover. It’s easy to become used to getting support from a person that you don’t realize when they become toxic. No one needs a ‘support system’ that they walk on eggshells around because that’s not even a support system in the first place.

In essence, choose your circle carefully, the people you let into your life, the people you decide to trust always be careful in selecting them. Remember you’re the most important person to yourself and so am I to me.